5 signs you need to change your relationship with money


ICYMI:

​How to Change Your Unconscious Blocks Around Money! 💸
​is happening THIS THURSDAY Oct 9th at 12pm ET! You won't want to miss it!!

If you come to the LIVE CLASS, you'll be entered into a raffle to get a FREE coaching session with me. The benefits people get from a single coaching session are seriously game-changing: People have reached out to me months and years later to tell me the impact a single session had on their lives and careers!

And if you didn't jump to immediately click that button to be there on Oct 9th because you're still on the fence, here's FIVE signs that this class is totally for you:

(1) You usually introduce yourself by your "day job" because you think saying you're an artist/writer/musician/dancer only counts if doing that creative work is your primary income. You're hung up on the "broke artist" paradigm, even though you "intellectually" know it's a crock of shit. Maybe you grew up thinking you couldn't make money as an artist, so you took up another career path. Or maybe you do make your primary income from creative work, but it's not enough money to "count" as successful in your book—or it's TOO MUCH money for comfort, so you feel like it's chipping away at your integrity. Anyway you slice it, this way of thinking is coming between your ability to create AND your ability to rake in that green.

*** You need a practice for separating money from your intrinsic worth. Let me teach you how to apply nervous system regulating tools to make for your creative practice to exist independent of what's happening in your financial life. Neither money, nor sales, nor productivity will ever permanently check the box on your legitimacy as "an artist": That's something you have to learn how to do for yourself (and I can show you how).

(2) You know that you *should be* investing or spending on appropriate financial support—but you're procrastinating er, waiting until you've "caught up on" [debt/income/savings, etc.]. This one might sting but stay with me: If you're playing a game of catch up, you're already in a losing position. You can't manage what's in the present if you're stuck trying to fix the past. The past is literally the one place where you have zero agency---so why are you so focused on trying to make up for whatever's behind you?

*** You need to create room to feel good with money, regardless of your history. I'll show you how to clean the slate and let yourself start making decisions from the present. You can ditch procrastination and give yourself a fresh start to your relationship with money. Because you deserve it (and because compounding interest waits for no one).

(3) Your prices are a constant guessing game of what *you think* some people *might be* willing to pay for your work—instead of being based on what you need to make in your practice or business. Prices are just totally made up anyway, so why not price based on what'll probably make people the happiest? Because priced low =/= accessibility OR satisfaction with your work. A low price might be one element to increasing access but when you use it as your only strategy, it doesn't work. Worse, it makes people LESS HAPPY with the work you do because they see your fear of rejection over your desire to connect.

*** In order to actually price accessibly or fairly, you need to use strategy, not just fear of rejection if someone can't meet your price. By learning to retrain your nervous system to ditch people pleasing, you make it possible to shape your practice beyond pricing. This puts your audience more at ease, meaning they'll get more satisfaction from your work and feel safe investing more in the awesome stuff you do.

(4) Writing a budget is so overwhelming you're not sure you even finished balancing it (because you legit blacked out before getting to the end). If there's one part of the grant application artists are PRAYING panelists will overlook, it's the budget. Trouble is, when you can't bring your whole brain to the budget you're overlooking a crucial part of feasibility in your project: We learn vital information about our artistic vision and proposals in the budget. Not to mention that if you run out of funds, there's a good chance you have to make major compromises on your project down the road (if you can still finish at all).

=>>> CC everyone who read that headline and was like, This is not me because I've figured out how to avoid ever needing to write a budget (never applying for grants or other opportunities where I could be in charge of big chunk of cash). My loves, you are missing a giant opportunity to make ambitious work while being in charge of your own pay check because of one tiny document. This is not strategic.

*** There tons of budget support available from arts orgs and youtube that can take you through the nitty gritty, but the ONE THING that's really missing is how to discharge overwhelm the moment the spreadsheet is open. Understanding how to to down-regulate your nervous system clears up brain fog and puts you back in touch with your resourcefulness and creativity, so writing a feasible budget (and sticking to it before you go over) is a skill you'll finally be able to hone.

(5) You can't separate your need to earn and save money from your disgust with capitalism—which means capitalism is making extra money off you in the form of late fees and investing/loaning out your money without your consent. Capitalism is counting on us to be fearful and ineffective with our cash. That's because, the more empowered we feel the more agency we ultimately exercise, keeping more cash in our pockets and our communities and sticking it to the system trying to bleed us all dry.

*** We are fighting to dismantle from capitalism: No question, that is goal number one! And in the meantime, training our nervous system to feel safe being pro-active about how we manage our money keeps more of it from seeping into the pockets of Wells Fargo and the like. As long as capitalism reigns, money is an essential part of our liberation toolbox. We need it to fund mutual aids, survival funds, and to take care of ourselves and each other. Feeling ok having and handling money is a game-changer in what we're able to do.

[bonus] You've taken money from AIPAC or the Israeli government or have let corporate interests convince you to stay silent on Gaza and other atrocities. Not the most universal reason, but deserves a shout-out all the same! People allow themselves to be manipulated by money and fear of rejection EVEN WHEN THEY ALREADY HAVE, LIKE, SO MUCH MONEY (*cough* beyoncé, t swift *cough, cough*). For too many people with wealth and power, the fear of loss is stronger than the observable knowledge of how much resources they actually have at their disposal. This is also the effect of an dysregulated nervous system, that sees corporate ties and increasing wealth as safety rather than the thing that actually keeps us all safe and free: Solidarity. (Yes, even billionaires are not truly safe or free without radical solidarity.)

​So get on that ticket!

As a reminder all funds will be donated to families in Gaza. Free up wealth while participating in solidarity—because collective liberation is always the goal.

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Love + solidarity,

Sam

Sam Sundius | life artist & visual coach

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